Life's Disappointments Started with Mom

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Disappointment is one of the first emotions we experience. One minute we are warm and safe, and then the next your being swatted on the behind, wiped down, handled by about have a dozen pairs of hands. So what do you do? You cry. You cry, and everyone laughs and claps, including YOUR MOTHER!!! You understand the world and it's disappointments right off the bat.
There are two types of disappointments. First, is disappointments we encounter everyday. Things like illness, death, a team we didn't want to be on, a friend who broke your trust, a test you should have passed, or our parents not letting us do something. Then there are disappointments of global proportions. The things you didn't ask for like world hunger, wars, and terrorist attacks. Of course some disappointments are brought about by our foolish mistakes and are consequences of our actions. These types of disappointments are easier to understand. But what about the other type of disappointments? The things we didn't ask for and the things that are harder to understand. How do we handle these things?
Dealing with things that we cant control is hard, and is even harder when we feel like we have to fix everything that has gone wrong. Whether it is losing a friend or not saying goodbye to a relative before they pass away there are somethings that we are left with that we are not able to fix. Sometimes temporary pain and disappointment is the price that we need to pay to open our lives to new possibilities and free ourselves from an impossible situations. Every situation is different and must be handled in accordance with its unique circumstances. Although it may sound like a cliché, there is truth to the saying that pain is sometimes the price that we must be willing to pay for growth.
I know that it's one thing to believe some of life's disappointments to be an opportunity and it's quite another to actually experience it that way. Life challenges are not inherently growth-producing. What determines whether or not they are is the attitude and inner resources that we meet those challenges with. All crises are potentially transformative in that they contain the seeds of new growth. Without disappointments there is no movement. Disappointment, or the desire to be free of them, often serves as a great motivator, but not always. Unless there is an ability to be present with the disappointment, and be informed and opened by it, the healing potential of emotional pain will be lost in a desire to escape suffering. It is the ability to move into and through disappointments with awareness that can make this process worthwhile and a learning experience.Sometimes we have to realize that we need to trust God and know that things will work out in the long run.